“A kind mouth multiplies friends and appeases enemies, and gracious lips prompt friendly greetings. Let your acquaintances be many,
but one in a thousand your confidant.
When you gain a friend, first test him,
and be not too ready to trust him.
For one sort is a friend when it suits him,
but he will not be with you in time of distress.
Another is a friend who becomes an enemy,
and tells of the quarrel to your shame.
Another is a friend, a boon companion,
who will not be with you when sorrow comes.
When things go well, he is your other self,
and lords it over your servants;
But if you are brought low, he turns against you and avoids meeting you.
Keep away from your enemies;
be on your guard with your friends.
A faithful friend is a sturdy shelter;
he who finds one finds a treasure.
A faithful friend is beyond price,
no sum can balance his worth.
A faithful friend is a life-saving remedy,
such as he who fears God finds;
For he who fears God behaves accordingly,
and his friend will be like himself.” – Sirach 6:5-17
We are a social being & it is expected that we do our best to get along with everyone & be on their friend’s list. Some would even empathize just so they can gain trust. But truth be told, they are backstabbing b**ches, who will twist your stories & maybe add a little more, just so they can be on the good side. And of course there are those who would just believe it, will boast about it & well, without clarifications.
We probably have someone like this in our circle. Sadly I was victimized twice, by the same person. I feel like a fool for trying to see the good in her & well, trusting. Someone told me to be careful around her & still I accepted her.
Oh well, twice, twice… Too much. Despite this, I am thankful to the Lord, for sending angels to warn me & let me know what she’s up to. She attacks when I am most vulnerable. Just like the devil on the desert.
People like her can spread toxicity. I am not perfect. No one is. But we should try to be the light in the middle of a toxic environment.
I admit, there were times when I wanted to just scream to the world who she is. Unmask her and tell everyone what she’s like. But I can’t stoop down to her level. My loving husband keeps telling me not to. Not to go down her level. Not to let her take my joy.
How do you cope with people like her? Answers much appreciated. 😀